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berteman/pacaran sama yang kelewat NARSIS
Narsis itu wajar-wajar aja ... tapi kalo udah kebangeten bisa mengarah ke gangguan jiwa istilahnya di psikologi: NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder). Kalau temen atau bf loe terjangkit 5 dari 9 simtom berikut ... loe mesti waspada:
- Ngerasa hebat banget tapi gak sesuai ama prestasinya (mokondo) , GR abieees
Feels grandiose and self-important (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents to the point of lying, demands to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
- Hidup di alam fantasi, hayal-hayal, ngarang-ngarang
Is obsessed with fantasies of unlimited success, fame, fearsome power or omnipotence, unequalled brilliance (the cerebral narcissist), bodily beauty or sexual performance (the somatic narcissist), or ideal, everlasting, all-conquering love or passion
- Yakin bener kalo dirinya unik dan istimewa. Sering bilang ... gak ada yang bisa ngertiin gue (soalnya yang lain ceremence semua ). Sok seleb
Firmly convinced that he or she is unique and, being special, can only be understood by, should only be treated by, or associate with, other special or unique, or high-status people (or institutions)
- Hauuuuuus pujian (gak bisa bedain pujian yang reeez, preettt ama yang beneran)
Requires excessive admiration, adulation, attention and affirmation - or, failing that, wishes to be feared and to be notorious (narcissistic supply)
- Maunya diistimewakan teruuuus
Feels entitled. Expects unreasonable or special and favorable priority treatment. Demands automatic and full compliance with his or her expectations
- Suka manfaatin temen
Is "interpersonally exploitative", i.e., uses others to achieve his or her own ends
- Susah empati/simpati ke temen
Devoid of empathy. Is unable or unwilling to identify with or acknowledge the feelings and needs of others
- Bawaannya siriiiiiiiiik muluuuu, ato ngira semua orang siriiik sama dia
Constantly envious of others or believes that they feel the same about him or her
- Arogan abiiis ... gampang murka kalo lagi frustasi, dibantah, ato ditantang
Arrogant, haughty behaviours or attitudes coupled with rage when frustrated, contradicted, or confronted[/list:u]
Nah... kalo loe udah terlanjur pacaran atau sobatan ama narsis, ato loe tipe masochist yang demen beteman ama narsis ... ini ada 5 JANGAN yang mesti diingat untuk ngehindari MURKA seorang narsis
- JANGAN pernah gak setuju ato ngebantah dia
Never disagree with the narcissist or contradict him
- JANGAN terlalu dekat sampai mendalam
Never offer him any intimacy
- JANGAN pernah ngeremehin dia, MUSTI keliatan kagum sama "prestasi"-nya setiap saat
Look awed by whatever attribute matters to him (for instance: by his professional achievements or by his good looks, or by his success with women and so on)
- JANGAN pernah ngingetin bahwa ada orang hebat di luar sana (di atas langit ada langit) kecuali omongan tentang orang hebat tsb bikin dia ngerasa hebat juga
Never remind him of life out there and if you do, connect it somehow to his sense of grandiosity
- JANGAN ngasih komentar yang bisa bikin rusak imej dia, mesti ikut ngeJAIMIN dia
Do not make any comment, which might directly or indirectly impinge on his self-image, omnipotence, judgment, omniscience, skills, capabilities, professional record, or even omnipresence. Bad sentences start with: "I think you overlooked ... made a mistake here ... you don't know ... do you know ... you were not here yesterday so ... you cannot ... you should ... (perceived as rude imposition, narcissists react very badly to restrictions placed on their freedom) ... I (never mention the fact that you are a separate, independent entity, narcissists regard others as extensions of their selves, their internalization processes were screwed up and they did not differentiate properly) ..." You get the gist of it.[/list:u]
tambahan dari gue ... JANGAN pernah berusaha nyembuhin seorang narsis, dari bacaan gue ... NPD gak bisa disembuhin. cuma bisa diminimalkan akibatnya
Sumber: http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/personality_disorders/narcissism/narcissism_defined.html
Comments
jadi ingat samwan................................................................sapa yah
Tak, korexi sedikit! Mungkin maksudnya omdo (omong doang)? :roll: Secara mokondo kalau nggak salah artinya modal kon… doang (konsisten, koneksi, konag, kondom dan kon2 lainnya!)
emang para tetua sudah pernah ngalamin yg kayak gitu? Or malah salah satunya?
Kalo aq belom pernah kenal yg kayak ginian, mungkin ada tp ga parah banget
yang disini lah...siapa lagi banci hayal2 klo disindang??? LOL
Kayaknya di BF masih blum ada narsis murni.
Btw, dulu pernah nemu org yg narsis. Tapi masih dlm taraf ringan. Jadi dia kemana-mana selalu dikelilingi orang2 yg tugasnya muji2 dia thok. Memang kebetulan dia orang kaya sih, jadi gampang nyari "bawahan"
IMHO, org narsis, orang angkuh, dan orang yg biasa dihormati/merintah paliiiing gampang dimanipulasi :twisted:
(masa makan nasi doang....., hihihiiiii..........)
ps : meredam MURKA orang narsis = diseruduk menJANGAN !!!
semua banci yang hayal2.. kok.. hayal2 pewong... LOL
Kecuali ekke ya bo LOL
iya aja deh untuk dedek.................lol
Ketika kutanya pada beberapa orang, apakah klaimku bahwa aku ”berwibawa, penuh pesona, bijaksana, ramah, sopan, jujur, baik hati, zucca menolong, rajin, cermat, gemar menabung serta menjunjung tinggi Sapta Marga dan Sumpah Prajurit” termasuk kategori narsis, semua menjawab bahwa ”Itu sih memang benar apa adanya!” :shock: Jangan2 mereka hanya menghindari MURKAku secara yang berisiko kena timah panas 9 mm? :roll: Tapi ketika aku klaim bahwa aku ”perkasa di ranjang dan pencinta ulung!” koq mereka pada ngenyèk ”Huh, leullah! Narsis abbiuizz!” :oops: